A space of your own
Can I leave?
Yes. Whenever you want, and you don't owe anyone a reason. Joining doesn't lock anything in. If this stops making sense, or never made sense, you leave.
What is this?
Someone set up a circle in this app. A circle is arranged around one person, and the code in your message is for that spot. Taking the spot is your decision, not theirs.
What do I decide?
Whether anyone outside the circle sees anything at all. You can pause that for a day or a week. You don't ask first, you don't explain, and nobody is notified that you did it. Turn it back on when you want, or leave it off.
You also decide what any given day holds. Nothing carries forward. A day where nothing got done is a day, and tomorrow arrives clean.
What was decided before I got here?
Three things were set before you arrived. Whoever built the circle decides what goes on your list, what a reward is worth, and the weekly rhythm. Those aren't shared settings, and this page won't pretend they are. You can ask for changes. Whether that happens is up to them.
What can other people see?
A circle has two parts. The people set up to run the day-to-day part can see your list and what you've finished. Anyone further out cannot, and there's no setting that opens it. The app has no way to show them.
Once a day, there's a check-in where you say how the day is going. Only you can fill it in. Nobody can request it, and nobody can refresh it to see whether you've answered.
If you write or record something about how a day went, it stays in that day-to-day part. It doesn't travel further out.
Anything I should know before I accept?
One thing. This spot works in one circle only. If you already hold it somewhere, a new code won't add a second, and the app will say so plainly instead of moving you anywhere.
Someone who cheers them on
A supporter is someone who gets to hear the good news. That's the whole job.
What would I see?
Wins they pick, one at a time. Plus an occasional highlight when they've been showing up for a while. They can turn highlights off.
When they share a win, you see that a good thing happened. The only time you see what it was is when they write it out themselves.
What wouldn't I see?
- Their list of things to do. That one is locked, and there's no setting that opens it.
- How anything felt. If they write a note about a rough day, or record one, it doesn't reach you. That's built in, not a preference.
- Anything they haven't shared. If they didn't pick it, it isn't there.
- Anything to do with money.
By default you won't see how their day is going. They can choose to show you, and they can turn it back off.
Will my phone start going off?
Nothing in the app notifies you about them. There's a switch you can turn on if you'd like a nudge, and it stays off until you do.
Is there something I can fail at?
No. Nothing to keep up with, nothing to check, no reply anyone is waiting on.
You can send a bit of encouragement whenever you feel like it. They can mark that they've seen it. They can't write back inside the app, so this won't become a thread you have to keep up with.
What if I read something and don't know what to say?
You don't have to say anything. Sending nothing is a normal way to use this.
Is this a safety net?
No, and that's worth being plain about. Nothing here alerts you. A quiet week in the app means nothing at all, in either direction. If you're ever worried about someone, talk to them the way you would have anyway.
Can I leave later?
Yes, whenever. Nobody gets an alert about it. If you're in more than one person's circle, leaving one leaves the rest alone.
A friend alongside them
Peer is for friendships. You cheer each other on and celebrate the wins you each share.
Is this a friendship thing or a looking-after thing?
A friendship thing. You're not being put in charge of anything.
What would I see, and not see?
The same as a supporter. Wins they pick, plus an occasional highlight they can switch off. Not their list, not how anything felt, nothing about money, and not how their day is going unless they choose to show you.
Am I being asked to sign up for my own version of this?
No. If you ever want a circle of your own you can make one, and plenty of people don't. Saying yes to this doesn't start that, and nobody is waiting on it.
Will they know when I'm ignoring the app?
No. There's no last-seen, no online dot, and nothing that reports back on how often you open it.
What if I'm struggling too?
Then you're a friend who's struggling, same as before. This doesn't ask you to be the steady one.
Is there a way to show I'm around?
If you want it. You can turn on a quiet signal that fades after half an hour. It says you're around and nothing else. It shows nothing about what you're doing, and it's off unless you switch it on.
Can I leave later?
Yes, whenever. Nobody gets an alert about it. If you're in more than one circle, the rest stay put.
Someone who helps with the day to day
This is the biggest of the four. Worth reading properly before you answer.
Am I being asked to keep watch over someone?
No, and it's built that way, not only promised. The app only knows what a person chooses to put into it. It can't see where they are, what else is on their phone, or anything they write anywhere else.
The once-a-day check-in is a good example. You can see it, but you can't ask for it, and you can't refresh it to find out whether they've filled it in.
How often will my phone go off?
Regularly, and that's the honest answer. About nine different things can send you a notification. Among them:
- Something finished and ready for you to recognize.
- A request to cash out.
- A message from them.
- A request to change something on the list.
- A heads-up on a hard day.
What am I actually on the hook for?
When they finish something, it waits for you. What they've earned doesn't land until you confirm it. That might be money, it might be time, it might be something they're putting toward a goal.
If a reward is involved it's a real one, and settling it is a real thing you'd be doing, usually about once a week.
Will I see private things?
Some, and only what they choose to send. If they want to tell you how something went, there's a place for that, including a written note or a recording. It's theirs to send or not send.
It isn't a report you're meant to grade. Nothing asks you to respond to it, or to work out what it means.
Do I need to know anything about ADHD or autism to do this right?
No. Nothing here needs you to be an expert on anything.
What if I have a bad week and miss things?
Then things sit and wait. Nothing breaks, and the app doesn't mark you down. There's a one-tap way to quiet things down if you're running low, and when nothing needs you the app says so plainly instead of inventing work.
How many people are in one of these?
Small on purpose. The day-to-day part of a circle is capped at ten people including them, and that cap is enforced rather than suggested.
Can I say no to this but stay involved another way?
Yes. There's a lighter part that only sees the good news. You'd ask them for that version instead, and there's a line further down you can copy.
Can I stop later?
Yes. You can leave, and you can talk to them about it first.
I'm not sure what I was asked
That's common. The message doesn't always make it obvious.
Reading a different part than the one you were given is no trouble, and nobody can see which one you read.
If you'd rather ask them directly, that works too. And if you were given one part but would rather have another, you can ask for that instead. There's a line for it below.
What is Maddy?
Maddy is built with and for ADHD and autistic people. That's who it's designed for.
It doesn't tell you why any one person uses it, and nobody owes you that.
What happens if I say yes?
Four steps, and it takes a couple of minutes.
- Get the app. The link is in the message they sent you, and that one is the right link for them.
- Make an account with an email address and a password.
- Type in the 6-digit code that arrives by email.
- Open the app, tap "I have an invite code", and enter the 8 characters from their message.
You'll need your phone for this part. If you're reading on a computer, that's the moment to pick your phone up.
There's no version you can read in a browser, and no way to accept from this page. Better to know that now than halfway through.
What if I'd rather not?
Then don't. It's a normal answer, and it's survivable for both of you.
Nobody is told that you looked. The app doesn't record whether you opened this, and there's no screen anywhere that tells them you read it and passed. If you do nothing at all, the code stops working after seven days and that's the end of it.
You can also read this now and decide another day.
If you want the words, here they are
Take them, change them, or ignore them.
To say no
Thanks for sending this. I read the whole thing, and I'm saying no. It's a no to the app, not to you. Everything else stays the same.
I looked at this and I'm going to pass. Wanted to give you a real answer instead of leaving you hanging.
To ask for a lighter part instead
I'm in, but for the smaller part. I want to be one of the people cheering from a bit further back, not in the day to day. Can you send me the code for that instead?
Is there a smaller version of this? I'd say yes to the cheering one. Send me that code and I'm in.
That second one needs a new code from them, so it's a small thing to ask for. It's also a completely normal thing to ask for.
What if the code doesn't work?
Codes last seven days. After that they stop, which happens all the time and means nothing.
Ask whoever sent it for a new one. That's an ordinary thing to ask, and it doesn't say anything about how long you took.